My love for the holidays traces back to childhood, when I was a little girl living in Venezuela. My favorite celebration was New Year’s Eve at Abuela’s house.
I had been taking tango lessons for six months in preparation for this very night in Buenos Aires. It was 10:45pm on a weeknight and the milonga - a traditional Argentinian social dance - was just getting started.
When I fail at something, my automatic reaction is self-criticism. I know that I’m not alone on this negative behavioral pattern, because most people I work with in therapy struggle with this same thing. It is as if somewhere along the way we learned that self-criticism would motivate us to do better going forward.
During 2014 it become clear to me that trusting myself is not a destination but instead a daily practice.