Connecting in times of change

I spend a lot of time thinking about change.

That's because as a psychotherapist in private practice, I specialize in working with people who are navigating change.

Lately, my thinking has been focused on this one question: what is the best thing we can do when we are in the middle of change?

When I think back to times of transition in my own life - when I have felt scattered, overwhelmed, and anxious - finding community has been vital. Calling a loved one, meeting a friend for tea, or attending a meditation group can help ground us.

Yet, there is one type of community that been particularly helpful to me in moments of flux: group therapy.

There is such power in gathering in a small group, with the intention of being honest and supportive with one another.

We get the chance to express our challenges and to hear other’s challenges, reminding us that we are indeed not alone.

Most importantly, we get to support each other in intentionally exploring and practicing more compassionate and more courageous ways of navigating the inevitable storms of change.

In the end, we emerge from group encounters feeling more connected, more supported, and more courageous.

I have particularly enjoyed participating in process groups - a type of group therapy where there is no planned outline for conversation but rather an open dialogue where participants voice what’s coming up for them in the here and now as interactions unfold in the group.

The group dynamics that play out can serve as a powerful mirror showing us our own relational patterns, and importantly, the group itself provides a playground to practice healthier ways of connecting to ourselves and others.

I've been journeying in a weekly process group over the past year and four months and it has been a rich experience. 

Witnessing the supportive sharing that can occur in a process group has reassured me that, albeit challenging, it is indeed possible to connect across differences.

My experience in a process group has refueled my hopefulness for a braver and kinder world. Now I half-joke with friends that I’m convinced that group therapy can heal the world.

Twenty-something year old me did not know the rich resource that is a process group. If only I could whisper this bit of wisdom to my younger self: join a process group and dive in.

As you can see, I love groups and trust deeply in their power to help us learn to communicate and connect more meaningfully.

So when thinking about the best thing we can do when we are in the middle of change, the answer that makes the most sense to me right now is to get connection, support, and courage by joining a therapy group. 

Lead by this answer in my heart, I am starting a Women’s Process Group.

We'll gather in my sun-filled office in Providence twice per month for an all-women gathering to help each other build our emotional wellness and relational skills. There will be tea, connection, support and lots of inspiration for growth.

This group will be a rich resource particularly for any woman currently navigating change in life or work - it'll be a safe space to get support in transforming the challenges of transitions into sources of learning, possibility, and growth.

If you know anyone that might be interested in joining this group please send them my way.

For those of you outside of Providence or wanting to explore group therapy more, you can search for groups in your area here.

Now, I’m curious what YOU think: what is the best thing we can do when we are in the middle of change? Hit reply and let me know. I’d love to hear from you.



PS. Upcoming happenings: 

  • Our next Wisdom Share is on Wednesday, April 25th, it's free sign up here.

  • Brown University is hosting free compassion meditations this weekend, more here.