Some of the most important lessons I’ve learned in 2014 have to do with trust. In 2014, I began some exciting new projects. Treading into new territories required for me to trust myself. The interesting thing is that trust is not something I have naturally without effort. Trust is something I have to practice. Sometimes I trust enough while other times not enough.
It has become clear to me that trusting myself is not a destination but instead a daily practice.
There were many days throughout 2014 that I had to remind myself that I am enough to be walking these new territories: I have enough experience, I have enough dedication, I have enough passion, I have enough skills, I have enough...
It has been helpful for me to identify things that allow me to trust myself more often. So far, I’ve identified 3 ideas that help me practice trust:
1. Fear and doubts are not weaknesses. Trusting myself does not mean that all my fears and my doubts will vanish, it simply means that I'll be able to better navigate them. In those moments when I doubt myself or when I feel scared, I remind myself that being afraid or doubtful does not mean that I'm weak. Dr. Brene Brown recommends writing these words on paper and putting it somewhere visible: "The fact that I feel scared and vulnerable does not change the fact that I am courageous."
2. Approach fear and doubt with curiosity. I try not to avoid fear or doubt and instead approach them with a sense of curiosity: Why do I feel afraid? Why am I doubting myself right now?
3. Remember these words: "I am enough." When fear or doubt do arise, I remind myself: "I Am Enough” and repeat all the positive qualities and skills that I have to support me in that moment. I tend to think of my track coach, reminding me of everything that’s good and helping me move forward.
I want to learn even more about what it means to really trust myself. I want to focus this year on practicing trust everyday. This is why I am choosing trust as my word for 2015.
May I trust myself in this moment.
May you trust yourself in this moment.
May we all trust in this moment.
Do you have a word or resolution for 2015? Send me a note and share it with me :)
Sending you love and best wishes for 2015,
Inspiration for your gratitude practice this month:
“There is a story of a woman running away from tigers. She runs and runs and the tigers are getting closer and closer. When she comes to the edge of a cliff, she sees some vines there, so she climbs down and holds on to the vines. Looking down, she sees that there are tigers below her as well. She then notices that a mouse is gnawing away at the vine to which she is clinging. She also sees a beautiful little bunch of strawberries close to her, growing out of a clump of grass. She looks up and she looks down. She looks at the mouse. Then she just takes a strawberry, puts it in her mouth, and enjoys it thoroughly. Tigers above, tigers below. This is actually the predicament that we are always in, in terms of our birth and death. Each moment is just what it is. It might be the only moment of our life; it might be the only strawberry we’ll ever eat. We could get depressed about it, or we could finally appreciate it and delight in the preciousness of every single moment of our life." Pema Chödrön, The Wisdom of No Escape: How to Love Yourself and Your World.